The Urban Graduette: [gift.him]
FINALLY! For all the graduettes who are in that last minute crunch for gifts…URBAN+TAKEOUT has some “just in time” suggestions to get you right with him for the Holidays. And to two of our favorite graduettes, fabwrldgoodlif and shesgoterown, I hope this does some justice.
There is something we need to make clear from the beginning. Never, never, NEVER give a man a pair of shoes, sneakers, J’s, SB’s, boots, etc. for a gift — Period. I recall my grandmother telling my sister, “Don’t give a man a pair of shoes…cuz he’ll walk right on out your life.” My grandmother has been married for 58 years — I’m just sayin.
With that said, let’s begin:
The Goods: A linen or cotton pocket square is extremely versatile. It can accent any suit, or it can be the perfect tool after a meal, a movie, or a party.
What He’ll Think: “The only person I ever knew that had assorted handkerchiefs was my Grandfather. He was a GREAT man. She must think I am too.”
How You Win: Most guys probably never use these — but most guys who are interested in having strong relationships will make the effort to please their woman, i.e. wearing/using what you give them. He get’s fresher — You get to have a subtle impact on his style, one pocket square at a time. FTW!
2. Something Electronic – The Droid ($200)
The Goods: This is arguably the coolest gadget on the market right now. Simple equation: iPhone + Blackberry + crack = The Droid. Any questions?
What He’ll Think: “This sh*t is LIVE!! Baby, I’m gonna be the ONLY kat with this year 2029 futuristic phone! Stunt HARD.”
How You Win: Okay, this is a 2-fold win. 1) You get to shine cuz in the most lowkey of ways, your man is gonna tell everybody, “Yea I got that new Droid…FROM MY GIRL”. Instantly, you be come The COOLest Wifey of the clique. 2) Being that you got him a new phone…you now have leverage to politely imply that you want one too! Just keep hinting…in a month or so…you’ll be good. FTW!!
3. Something BadAss (one word…BADASS) – Marc New York by Andrew Marc ($325 reg. price – Sale price: $189)
The Goods: A Leather Jacket is one of the most coveted items of any man’s wardrobe. Andrew Marc makes sleek designed jackets with very supple leather.
What He’ll Think: “This is BADASS! They not gon’ be ready for me when I break this bad boy out! Oooooh sh*t!”
How You Win: If you’re a seasoned shopper like I am…then you know that the best time to buy outerwear is in the off-season. A leather jacket will be TREMENDOUSLY marked down! On top of that, you’re giving your man possibly the most MANLY gift of all time! Don’t be surprised if tries it on, pops his collar, then grabs your ass — he’s a man…in leather. FTMFW!
4. Something Distinguished – David Donahue Links ($45); or Epaulet Tanner Goods Sterling Silver Tie Bar ($40)
The Goods: Every guy should own at least one pair of links and one tie bar, preferably sterling silver. They make the gentleman look refined. The links are sleek and stylish, not too much, but just enough. The Tie Bar actually comes with 4 interchangeable leather strips that are inserted in the middle part of the sterling bar — now he can match with his shoes.
What He’ll Think: “Okay, I can definitely wear this/these to work. I might have to step my dress shirt game up though.”
How You Win: This is a symbol — As his girl, you are showing that you care about his future. You know his dreams/aspiration, and you understand that the suited man gets/keeps the job. For the Refined Win.
5. Something Custom: A Button-down Dress Shirt, or a Gray/Monotone Blazer…Tailored of-course. ($79 – $225). Suggestion for shirts – Ralph Lauren Purple Label or Thomas Pink.
The Goods: Practically anything from a great dress shirt, to nice a blazer. Here’s the trick — get his measurements, BEFOREHAND. Look at the one item that you think he looks GREAT in..and use that as your barometer. Get the article tailored (by a professional), wrap it, and watch his mouth drop open at how nicely it fits.
What He’ll Think: “How the hell did you know my size? This fits like that one shirt of mine that I like! Not too tight across the chest, the arms are the right length. Damn, you really did your thang on this one babe.”
How You Win: Well, this falls under that warm, fuzzy, thoughtful category. Guys don’t know how to respond to getting gifts — in fact, their mindset is to just give them, not to accept them. But when you go the EXTRA MILE, not only will he notice, but it makes him remember why you are the best woman for him. For the Inelastic Win, the Game, the Season, and the Championship! Now bring on that ring!
An Example of what you want the tailored shirt to look like
(See Michael Ealy in merlot Ralph Lauren Black Label Shirt – screen left):